I'm just about to embark on a trip of a lifetime to the mountains of Oman, it's no holiday though, I am trekking in aid of breast cancer charity Coppafeel! This all being very worthy and it is an amazing charity, I can't help but be racked with guilt.
This solo adventure marks the part in my life that needs something more, something for myself and something to allow me to help others outside our strong and loving family unit. Selfish, yes you may think, but I think this will really ignite an aspect of lives we maybe missing.
I need to remember I am not only leaving behind my truly super husband and my wonderful children, I am also leaving my home, the farm and all the day to day mundane jobs I have to do... here's hoping on my return a new found respect has been established for my role in our family - general dogsbody, a target for food, a washing Trojan, a cooking machine and so on.
Would you leave your children for a week to go on a solo mission?
Here are my thoughts:
As a very lucky mummy I know how emotional this will be for both my children and I (this is the longest I have ever left them), however I do feel that my children will become more resilient with me as their Mummy more fulfilled in other areas of my life, as youngsters they will be more secure and well adjusted to change. I know there are mum's out there that would sacrifice every part of their life for their child's 'well being' but from my point of view this may do more harm than good in the long run. If my children have a healthy attachment to me they will gain trust and will use me as a security blanket to go on adventures themselves. My children know I will be returning and knowing this, they confirm that all important trust, in turn providing them with an invaluable healthy sense of self. These are my views and know some of you wont agree, but a child petrified of leaving their mummy's side will only become insecurely attached, and not ever being apart from their mummy they will find it harder to develop the feeling of trust and solid security in their future lives and relationships.
Don't get me wrong, I am going to hate leaving them and will miss them like crazy, moreover, I know they are in good hands and this will do our whole family unit the world of going in the future. So if you are a mummy (or daddy) that still needs or yearns adventure in their lives, do it, you have my vote and like me, I hope you can have a somewhat guilt free travelling experience. Bring on Oman.
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children dressed by : Piccalilly